We had a guest host today. Fair warning.
So I’ve gone on 5 dates with this wonderful guy. The first 4 dates were initiated by him…the 5th date was initiated by me. I have noticed that he has grown more affectionate towards me with each date and also taking things VERY slowly – Our dates are all fabulous and full of conversation. On our last date he talked about places we can go on future dates. Texting seems to be 50:50 and he pays for our dates (but I always offer!). I initiated the 6th date by asking if he is free tomorrow and he told me he MIGHT be going away for the weekend and that he will text me to let me know…he still hasen’t texted me and the day is almost over. If he dosen’t text to let me know should I just assume that he is no longer interested in seeing me?
Are you the girl Stevie always talked about? I mean, for fuck’s sake, you sound familiar.
Now that that’s out the way, I’m going to say that this can go one of two ways. Let’s start with the most obvious one first and work our way up to the other one.
This guy is very affectionate with you, has paid for five dates, and has a steady text ratio. He’s trying to fuck. I don’t care how sweet he is, how much he cares about saving the blue-spotted dolphin you brought up in passing on date two, or even how “slow” his game seems. At the end of the day, he’s trying to fuck, and it’s a nice, but methodical approach he’s taking to accomplish that (he’s not being forceful, he’s being chivalrous and playing the “nice guy” card). The fact that he’s completely 180ed just in time for date six kind of supports this.
Either that or he’s fucking someone else and has no use for your ass. Remember, as nice as guys can be, we, unless we’re attempting to marry the girl (and even THEN sometimes), will probably begin thinking with our dicks sooner or later. Also, the fact that four out of the five dates were initiated by him lends even more validity to my claim. The last one, in his mind, probably played out like this:
“Oh, she’s taking the initiative and sees that I’m a great guy–and probably a great fuck. With that said, I’m about to get some pussy.”
“We’re here on this fifth date, I’m about to get some pussy.”
“…where’s the pussy?”
Now, I’m not saying “hey, you, spread your legs to keep the guy,” because that’s lame. But, judging from what you’ve told me, this guy has hidden expectations about your “relationship” and you haven’t met them.
Now, the second potential answer is this: what the fuck are youAre you married to the guy? Are you even dating him exclusively? No? Then, just because he says “hey, I may have other plans,” it doesn’t mean that he’s saying fuck you. It probably means that “hey, I may have other plans, and because we’re not married or dating or what have you, I don’t have to explain my every move to you.” Do you know what I am saying?
Also, people’s phones die. Guys sometimes go “off the grid” to avoid being bothered. He could have even gotten mauled by a bear and is now bleeding out somewhere in the forest. What I’m getting at is this: don’t assume the negative right out the gate. Yeah, that’s ironic considering that I, firstly, think he just wants sex, but hey I’m allowed to do that. Either way, stop being crazy. Dude obviously isn’t just running off. He said he may be busy. Odds are he’s probably busy. Give him time. He’ll hit you back.
– Guest host out.